Truly Persist with Balance

I have written that balance is vital to our mental and physical health. In addition, I also mentioned that as my son and I learned in martial arts “You can slow down, but you don’t stop”. Just as the title my message is it is okay to be persistent. Just as a rule of thumb period be aware. I’m going to take a moment to talk about my daughter. She is persistent and does not simply take rejection. While as you know she is on the Autism Spectrum and mostly non-verbal she tries, and I love her for it. I prefer her using her words when she can try, but when it comes down to it, she struggles verbally so I’ll take her showing me and gesturing what she wishes to communicate. At seven-years old I’d like to highlight that her favorite words are “shopping”, “Ice cream”, and “no. She has a sense of humor, the sweetest smile that is sure to melt your heart and carries the stubbornness of grown-woman. While some days I am sure she is slowly working on giving me grey hair early she’s, my clone. She has not learned the filter yet, but it will come in time just as her understanding through experience as she ages in life.

Many times, I can only imagine her frustration, but I believe I understand it for the most part. Again, she is my clone. She is strong willed like her mother, independent in nature, a queen/boss in training, kind, and doesn’t have time to waste over things that give her no results or productivity. When you mix those things with a childlike mindset due to her age and being non-verbal for the most part life can be even more frustrating. We went to a birthday party this past weekend and it was roller skating. This was the first time my daughter and son had ever done this. I had not done it in years truth be told. Every time my daughter fell, she eagerly got back up with enthusiasm as I held her hand guiding her verbally telling her “It’s okay, we all fall down. What matters is that you get back up. You’re doing a good job”. I truly hope she carries this message for life. Yes, she easily drives me nuts knowing how to push my buttons. Rarely taking the first “no” or correction when she truly wants to do something however, I often catch that side look from her when she does try to re-attempt to touch whatever it was, she clearly understands to leave alone. She is teachable in personality and very intelligent, so I know she understands. We do our best to teach her discipline as she grows so she be aware and grow into the queen/boss she is meant to be. I see all the potential in her future she could accomplish. My daughter is learning over a period to be a woman. Children do not stay young and innocent-none of us do. Eventually we must take responsibility for our own choices and actions. Youth grow and absorb everything around them like a sponge. No matter what my children choose I only with them happiness, health, and success. They grow up to be respectful, yet bold knowing how to defend themselves and deal with any situation that occurs in life. The world can be easily beautiful and cruel. They need to know how to adapt and see opportunities in every “problem”. This is a world where material things and appearance rule. While as you know I have nothing against nice material things the idea that having all the material things, I’m also aware appreciating the small things in life comes first. Without family and friends what good is the $3000,0000 Mansion you own to share it with? Balance is key.

Balance the fact that not everyone will have the same mindset as you. My family are givers. We are kind. My daughter will pretend to put her baby dolls to bed with a blanket, cover either her dad, myself, and her brother with a blanket if she thinks we are cold or about to take a nap without asking. My son loves to share with his sister and give her hugs. My nephews ages 5-years old and the second 9-months love play, giggle, and protect each other. Let me clarify that I use the word kind because anyone can be nice, and that’s great really-but kindness comes from within. When you’re a kind giver you need to be aware of who will do the same for you as you would them. Because not everyone will. Takers surely do not. Not everyone is the same and that’s okay. Some people come into our lives for us to learn and then leave. Keep the lesson, not everyone is meant to stick around. Kindness is not weakness. It is a strength. It is the mental strength that allows us to forgive, let go, and keep being persistent that which is a worthy goal. It is not easy to be kind to the bully who picked on you and it is not easy to continue to be kind to narcissist who never takes responsibility for example. Believe me kind givers get wore down, fed up, angry, and we throw our inner tantrum. But we keep going. Giving the same behavior when someone gave you misery as “misery loves company” (mind you that is a reflection of that person not you) is not the answer. You then would share negativity than positivity.

Today take this message: No matter what you struggle with in all the kindness of who you are remember you represent you. And Karma is real. Do not let the intended malicious behavior of another toward you let you become a mass of darkness when you can be a light for others. People come and go. Learn and find balance. As I encourage you as I encourage my daughter and son “Be the best king or queen that you can be”. Learn to be a follower to understand humility and what it means to lead before you lead as a boss/king/queen. Be humble, yet strong (again strong can mean mentally as well). You got this. From myself and my persistent 7-year-old queen in training: “Use balance to achieve to become the greatest that you can be with all the persistence within you”.